A love note to anger.

​Dearest heart, 

In Chinese medicine, the energetic of anger is represented through the liver, gallbladder and season of Springtime. Typically on this cusp we can intuitively feel the qualities of renewal, growth, freshness, perspective, lightness, joy and ease in the air.

To put this into context, the liver is the primary detoxification organ in the body, the gallbladder secretes bile to move toxins out through the body safely. For this reason, from a bodily perspective, when this system of our body is functioning optimally we have greater access to what needs to move through us energetically, physically and emotionally. 

People are often surprised to learn that Springtime could represent anger but healthy anger is a critical component of wellness. Imagine it as the energy of UP and OUT... this is the energy of Spring. This is not just a force of mother nature. It's a force of our own innate nature.

Think of a seeds growth journey. It moves in darkness through dense earth and around many obstacles to reach fullness. Up and out, up, around and out. This is the energy of motion, flow, play, adaptability, radical flexibility and resilience. Truly it is an embodiment of responsiveness to nonlinear and spontaneous growth. An embodiment of the creative visionary.

Imagine how nature would perish if when that seed comes up against resistance angrily resists anything on its path. It may labour the injustice of being blocked or challenged. It may meet objection in the form of struggle and with enough perceived setbacks lose hope and in using its energy to complain, and argue for its limitations, simply give up, never realising its potential.

In this sense helplessness and hopelessness, the feeling of being perpetually cut off from what we need is a deflated form of anger.

Healthy anger is something that most struggle with. I remember being told in my therapeutic training that I needed to learn how to allow myself a healthy protest. To my mind, there was no such thing. Any attempts I made to be heard in childhood had been largely shut down yet now I know to rise up, to stand up, to have a boundary, to be able to say that something isn’t okay with me, to find another way to go is what allows my creative expression to flow without my erroneous belief that it would imply fury or failure on some level.

I see this across the board in children. Born with an innate capacity to speak their truth. They masterfully embody, flow, spontaneity and raw honesty. Honestly, that is unbounded by ego. Honesty which springs up naturally from innocence, playfulness and open-heartedness. There is transparency and authenticity in children that only becomes adulterated by the perspective of adults.

At some stage that honesty becomes inconvenient to the world and so our relationship to self-love and anger begins. In effect, we lose the capacity to be fully present in the moment and experience that moment moving through us. Our formerly clear channels, flowing with expression, in their cut off state, are what typically leads to feelings of isolation and directionlessness - of not quite knowing who we are.

One of my parents had explosive rage. Protesting felt like the most unsafe thing in the world to me. How could I risk expressing my own fear and anger knowing it would be met with shaming, guilting, labelling, conditions of worth and punishment.

In the presence of unhealthy anger, in this case, explosive rage, we can feel the delicate and precarious nature of its energy. There is a sense of having to tread lightly and handle with care.

In my work, I see a silent epidemic of mothers whose most persistent concern is their inability to regulate their anger. The UP and OUT nature of healthy anger has become blocked. In most cases, a secondary time of anger has replaced it. The UP and OUT is redirected back inwards upon itself. This is what we typically experience as passive aggression.

Because the up and out nature of our being cannot be stopped, when it is cut off we must reroute it. The consequence of this is rage. We can liken it to a pressure cooker. We unintentionally internalise and attempt to contain greater amounts of anger, frustration and suffering by keeping a lid on it. And then, often in lavish outbursts, disproportionate to the situation, the lid is blown off. We rekindle and replay old stuck loops of shame and guilt from childhood, those typically used to shut down our expression in the first place.

When we live with feelings of anger which constantly simmer just below the suffer, with no safe outlet for expression, a precarious and unpredictable pattern can emerge, oscillating between combustion and containment. This distortion and twisting create patterns of domination and submission and incessant power struggles causing the need to keep things under control.

From this, we experience anxiousness, low mood, sleep disturbances and dysregulation in every system and function of the body. Nothing is more toxic to our system than anger gone awry.

In the end, we manage or mismanage our anger through internally stunting it. This is generally a learned behaviour born of conditioning. We shut ourselves down, something I witness as a kind of pathological hesitation. It stunts our creative fires and the ability to honestly express who we truly are...and when we do this long enough we begin to question who we are and struggle to take up space or know how to be in the world consistently.

So how do we diffuse this bomb? Which left untended creates real and present danger in our lives.

Today, of all days. Let us Love Bomb the self!

Consider each obstacle a necessary part of the dance, the flow, the expression of self. Every setback becomes your personal invitation to authentically connect to your true nature.

The mantra: Up and Out
The stance: Curiosity, playfulness, adaptability, flexibility.
The Question: How can I let this move through me?

The Protocol: When anger starts to percolate when pressure begins to build, practice the art of self-love bombing. This takes consistency and practice. In effect, you are learning how to interrupt and then aromatically anchor new behaviours and perspectives through activating the limbic system, or centre of memory, trauma and emotion. In one simple, loving action, you will adjust your heart rate, blood pressure and body temperature. This is big work but comes one breathe at a time. 

If you can perfect this simple art of attention and awareness your emotional life will be radically transformed. Your anger, or rather, creative energy seeking expression, can and will be transmuted.

To do this I suggest working closely with doTERRA Balance blend. In it, there is a magical flower from the daisy family called Blue Tansy. She is the court jester of the oil kingdom. Her nature is one of flow, she moves to and through all that is stuck within our body and our internal processes.

She like the jester rolls with the punches. Obstacles become engagements for play and adaption. This energy of tumbling and shifting playfully brings the challenge into a kind of contact sport. You develop the capacity to connect and recondition your energy, to laugh, to explode with joy.

When we are capable of lightness in the most trying of circumstances we are, like children again, capable of seeing our truth at the highest levels of expression.

This cultivation of light-heartedness is a return to self-love.

Blue Tansy goes into the meridians, the body, the psyche and into the places where anger in the form of rage or hopelessness have become deeply ingrained in our lived experiences and responses to life.

Pause for Reflection...

Today. Look at the areas of your life where it feels easeful to take creative and inspired action - where lightness and hopefulness feel available to you.

And then begin to reflect on the area/s where this feels incredibly difficult to access. Perhaps in the realm of your body, money, love, relationships or career. Those things that every time you think about them you almost instantly and subconsciously collapse, you already feel an enormous sense of defeat before you've even begun to take action.

In my experience what lurks underneath this is anger in the form of helplessness and hopelessness which has been internalised - which has turned upon itself.

Blue tansy can be used on targeted acupressure points, diffused in the air or massaged into zones of the body. The beauty of this work is that with patience and presence old stuck and destructive habits are located and gently opened so that the UP and OUT energy can begin to flow once again.

Where pharmaceutical drugs force occurrences in the body and mind, therapeutic grade oils create pharmacological effects on the body working intuitively with energy flow. So while we can experience emotional and psychological breakthroughs with essential oil use, these experiences are not abrupt, unwanted or forced.

To assist you as you journey towards greater and greater self-love I am leading a Spring Cleanse from March 1st-30th.

This is the optimal time to harness your own UP and OUT nature in tandem with mother nature and your essential oil journey.

During our cleanse you will receive targeted support to implement practical applications for your most authentic self to flourish, providing a deeply supportive environment in your body for all the physical, emotional and psychological shifts you desire to navigate with more flow. If you would like more information on how to take part please email me at sing@clarewilds.com and I can assist you.

When joining you will automatically be entered into our Cleanse draw for the opportunity to win doTERRA Rose touch an energetic expression of the very highest frequency of love.

With Love, Clare x